WTF Do You Do?

Ok! So this is to all you long distance-ers

Namely Military long distance-ers

While this isn't just to military relationships, 

I think the only ones who can truly relate, 

are Military because their free time is so limited. 

(Grand total of 4 weeks a year 

are allowed to be spent away from work place/base)

So my question to all of you is: 

What do you do when you

don't live any where near your guys family

which means he is forced to choose between you and them
as far as his leave time goes. 

No matter what it is a win win, 

but at the same time no matter what it is a loose loose. 

If he goes to see you, you're ecstatic

but you are sad and feel guilty

because he is not seeing them. 

If he goes to see them, you are over the moon

but at the same time you're sad, 

and feeling guilty for feeling sad

because you're not getting to see him.

Now I'm asking every one on the interwebs this question

Because as far as I know, 

no one I can think of  that I know personally

has experience with this problem. 

All the military relationships I know 

met before their guys went into the military

which means they are from the same place. 

I am really hoping some one out here, 

in the wide wide interwebs

will have a similar situation

and can relate and give advice. 

Even if you aren't in a similar situation, 

if you think you have some good advice please give it.